I met a guy recently whilst out and about in London who seemed nice, normal even.
I didn't expect to hear from him at all if I am honest. I've given up expecting men to actually call when they take my number, anyone who has watched Sex And The City will tell you that this theme has been exhausted.
However he did get in touch and ask me for a drink. Thanks to the tube strike it didn't look like the date would happen, he wasn't sure what time he would get to our meeting place due to the public transport nightmare and said that if he wasn't there by 7pm I should definitely go home and we would rearrange the date.
Alarm bells were ringing that this was just some joke and that I would end up sitting there alone, it all having been a wind up.
However at about fifteen mins to seven he walked in, just as cute as I remembered.
He didn't know the area and asked me to pick somewhere to go, so I suggested a place not far away and we trotted round to the bar, grabbed a couple of drinks and settled in a corner. A quick summary...
He has a husky - my favourite kind of dog
He likes boxing - I like boxing
Name a film he likes - I like that film
TV - See above
So we had enough in common to talk a couple of hours away. However he'd stopped drinking beer and had bought himself a gin and tonic. I stood up to get the next round and he patted me on the arm and said "You do know you're a girl don't you?" now I wasn't about to bash him for wanting to pay but to be it like that couldn't have sounded more condescending. I don't mind buying a round, particularly on a first date when no one has anything to lose, but to be spoken to like that made me feel like the "little woman" - perhaps my feminist side was overreacting a little.
Unfortunately once he started mixing his drinks he was a pointless date. He asked me how long I had been single and I told him - about two years. He said "So you haven't been laid in two years?"
FFS
I brushed the question off like it was a joke but it pissed me off because it really is not a question to ask a lady, and it was none of his fucking business (its been a while)
In fairness he was very pissed but even so. Eventually the conversation got a bit heated when we got onto the topic of religion (don't ask me how, only he and his long island ice tea know that)
We travelled to the same station and I pointed him in the direction of his train, he was texting me on the way home saying how sorry he was to mess up our date and that he'd fucked it all up. I just replied being nice and said it was fine, after all he'd been a bit of a prick but he wasn't a horrible person, just horrible at mixing his drinks.
It really was disappointing because at the beginning of the date I was musing to myself about how lovely it was to have met someone actually worth spending date time with!
After a poll of the ladies at work the outcome was split, some think he was nervous and deserves another chance, he text me this evening and asked if I am free tomorrow, so on Monday, after work, we are going for coffee, far safer and also I would like to see if it was purely too much alcohol that made him so mouthy.
We'll see readers but in the meantime...
Love
SG
X
Sunday, 9 February 2014
Saturday, 1 February 2014
The Bitch is back!
My goodness it has been a while!
Since the autumn of last year I have been embarking on an exciting new chapter professionally. Its not been easy but there is light at the end of the tunnel and hopefully an opportunity for growth.
My company was taken over by a much larger company and following the merger I was transferred to a new office with a new team. I didn't even have one person at my level before and now I have five colleagues which is very different.
I also sit in an open plan space which has been a complete eye opener. I have realised that I like my own quiet space, although I can put up with open plan arrangements I would far rather be in a corner somewhere where no one speaks!
This is very similar to how dating has left me feeling recently. I have been on a few dates but none of them really made me feel it was worth giving up my personal alone time for.
Gascoigne and I went out last night for her sisters 50th birthday, and Reg (G's other half) was giving me some drunken love life advice, but he also said he's never seen me looking more relaxed or happy, which I think is a really lovely compliment.
Little sister single is currently travelling around India, I'm not the travelling type but I would love to go away on holiday soon. I've been looking at singles holidays and although I thought I would never be the type to embark on something like this I have started to consider it differently. After all my twenties are for living and as of the 25th March I will have one year of my twenties left. In 2015 I will be a flirty thirty and might have to grow up.
I am going to try to write a list of all the things I was to achieve in that year, it wont be long or unattainable but things that I want to experience, and I am going to do them.
So as for the dates my most recent was with a guy I met in a club on sister singles birthday. A few weeks later we met up in the afternoon and had a couple of drinks in the pub. He is 25 (a toyboy!) and from Europe. Here is a gal single fact...I have never dated someone who wasn't from Ireland or England and I have never dated anyone of a different colour (I'm white)
I am not even sure why this is it's just the way it worked out. The language barrier between me and my date, lets call him Jake, was very funny at times. One evening, instead of goodnight, he told me to have a sweet night. But on the date I found myself doing that horrible British thing of speaking loudly and slowly thinking he may understand better. Similarly at one point he just said "you don't understand me" and I had to admit that my nodding and smiling was all fake and I didn't have a fucking clue what he was on about.
He was very sweet though and held my hand a little on the date which felt very old school. He gave me a peck on the cheek after he walked me to my station and we have been texting since.
I think he's got all the potential to be a fling but I am not sure I have the energy to be flung!
The ex who broke my heart has been in touch, it's like he has a radar for when I am happy. A friend encouraged me to delete his number so I wouldn't be able to contact him again, pointless I said because I know his number like I know my pin number and nothing has ever stopped me using a cash point when I am drunk, she said it was symbolic or something so when I deleted his number, all of a sudden, he was texting me.
He said he was thinking about me blah blah. I sense there might be trouble in paradise with his new woman. Whatever it is it's nothing to do with me anymore but it does annoy me that he only uses me when he wants something. Then again I suppose most of us do that at some point.
My friend Southern Comfort is having her daughter's (my little Princesses) first birthday party on the 15th of Feb and I have been put in charge of party bags, I am so excited, the great thing about your friends having kids is that you can do all the cool stuff and then give them back!
So that's brought you up to speed on a few things. I hope to be writing my blog on a much more regular basis now work has finally settled down.
Until next time
Love
SG
X
Since the autumn of last year I have been embarking on an exciting new chapter professionally. Its not been easy but there is light at the end of the tunnel and hopefully an opportunity for growth.
My company was taken over by a much larger company and following the merger I was transferred to a new office with a new team. I didn't even have one person at my level before and now I have five colleagues which is very different.
I also sit in an open plan space which has been a complete eye opener. I have realised that I like my own quiet space, although I can put up with open plan arrangements I would far rather be in a corner somewhere where no one speaks!
This is very similar to how dating has left me feeling recently. I have been on a few dates but none of them really made me feel it was worth giving up my personal alone time for.
Gascoigne and I went out last night for her sisters 50th birthday, and Reg (G's other half) was giving me some drunken love life advice, but he also said he's never seen me looking more relaxed or happy, which I think is a really lovely compliment.
Little sister single is currently travelling around India, I'm not the travelling type but I would love to go away on holiday soon. I've been looking at singles holidays and although I thought I would never be the type to embark on something like this I have started to consider it differently. After all my twenties are for living and as of the 25th March I will have one year of my twenties left. In 2015 I will be a flirty thirty and might have to grow up.
I am going to try to write a list of all the things I was to achieve in that year, it wont be long or unattainable but things that I want to experience, and I am going to do them.
So as for the dates my most recent was with a guy I met in a club on sister singles birthday. A few weeks later we met up in the afternoon and had a couple of drinks in the pub. He is 25 (a toyboy!) and from Europe. Here is a gal single fact...I have never dated someone who wasn't from Ireland or England and I have never dated anyone of a different colour (I'm white)
I am not even sure why this is it's just the way it worked out. The language barrier between me and my date, lets call him Jake, was very funny at times. One evening, instead of goodnight, he told me to have a sweet night. But on the date I found myself doing that horrible British thing of speaking loudly and slowly thinking he may understand better. Similarly at one point he just said "you don't understand me" and I had to admit that my nodding and smiling was all fake and I didn't have a fucking clue what he was on about.
He was very sweet though and held my hand a little on the date which felt very old school. He gave me a peck on the cheek after he walked me to my station and we have been texting since.
I think he's got all the potential to be a fling but I am not sure I have the energy to be flung!
The ex who broke my heart has been in touch, it's like he has a radar for when I am happy. A friend encouraged me to delete his number so I wouldn't be able to contact him again, pointless I said because I know his number like I know my pin number and nothing has ever stopped me using a cash point when I am drunk, she said it was symbolic or something so when I deleted his number, all of a sudden, he was texting me.
He said he was thinking about me blah blah. I sense there might be trouble in paradise with his new woman. Whatever it is it's nothing to do with me anymore but it does annoy me that he only uses me when he wants something. Then again I suppose most of us do that at some point.
My friend Southern Comfort is having her daughter's (my little Princesses) first birthday party on the 15th of Feb and I have been put in charge of party bags, I am so excited, the great thing about your friends having kids is that you can do all the cool stuff and then give them back!
So that's brought you up to speed on a few things. I hope to be writing my blog on a much more regular basis now work has finally settled down.
Until next time
Love
SG
X
Wednesday, 21 August 2013
Rogues Gallery
Some of the hapless chaps I have been chatting to online recently…
1. The god squad I’m not sure why people use dating sites to try and spread their version of the “good news” Its hardly the most likely platform is it? But I seem to get a lot of these.
I can honestly say I have never heard of someone who, whilst using a dating site, managed to be converted and walked off into the sunset, alone, bathed in the light of the Lord. As you can see I didn’t bother replying to this guy, it would only have prompted a painful conversation. I’ll just have to hope he prays for me instead.
2. Patience is a virtue
This rather needy gentleman on POF didn’t take to kindly to my little bit of advice.
To be honest I was only trying to be nice in letting him know that his behaviour could cost him a date with the right lady, not that he asked me but I thought what I said might help him...
A few mins! Give me a break, I might be dating online but that doesnt mean I have to reply to your message straight away, or at all. After this conversation I checked out this guys profile. He is divorced having only been married for 11 months (perhaps she didn’t reply to text messages quickly enough) and generally just sounded a bit strange, nothing wrong with being strange but being so pushy online will put women off.
“I’m not psychic you know” - this really pissed me off, after all I appreciate he is not psychic, I don’t expect him to be but give a girl a break, in the two minutes between his messages I could have been making a cup of tea, or in the bath, or on the loo negotiating a tricky shit. He wasn’t going to get a date anyway but this conversation absolutely guaranteed it and if this is the way he speaks to women online then I’ll bet he wont have much dating luck at all.
3. The advice line
This guy is hopeless!
We had been chatting briefly, not chatting for weeks or months, just that day and so to tell me about his sex drive was just a little too much. In contrast to Mr Impatient he took my little pearls of wisdom with good humour.
Although today when I got a message from him asking for my advice about something I told him I wasn't his agony aunt but on the other hand giving out a bit of advice was quiet fun.
Until next time
Love
SG
1. The god squad I’m not sure why people use dating sites to try and spread their version of the “good news” Its hardly the most likely platform is it? But I seem to get a lot of these.
I can honestly say I have never heard of someone who, whilst using a dating site, managed to be converted and walked off into the sunset, alone, bathed in the light of the Lord. As you can see I didn’t bother replying to this guy, it would only have prompted a painful conversation. I’ll just have to hope he prays for me instead.
This rather needy gentleman on POF didn’t take to kindly to my little bit of advice.
To be honest I was only trying to be nice in letting him know that his behaviour could cost him a date with the right lady, not that he asked me but I thought what I said might help him...
A few mins! Give me a break, I might be dating online but that doesnt mean I have to reply to your message straight away, or at all. After this conversation I checked out this guys profile. He is divorced having only been married for 11 months (perhaps she didn’t reply to text messages quickly enough) and generally just sounded a bit strange, nothing wrong with being strange but being so pushy online will put women off.
“I’m not psychic you know” - this really pissed me off, after all I appreciate he is not psychic, I don’t expect him to be but give a girl a break, in the two minutes between his messages I could have been making a cup of tea, or in the bath, or on the loo negotiating a tricky shit. He wasn’t going to get a date anyway but this conversation absolutely guaranteed it and if this is the way he speaks to women online then I’ll bet he wont have much dating luck at all.
3. The advice line
This guy is hopeless!
We had been chatting briefly, not chatting for weeks or months, just that day and so to tell me about his sex drive was just a little too much. In contrast to Mr Impatient he took my little pearls of wisdom with good humour.
Although today when I got a message from him asking for my advice about something I told him I wasn't his agony aunt but on the other hand giving out a bit of advice was quiet fun.
Until next time
Love
SG
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