Cheeky Cheeky

Now to explain what is happening with Cheeky Face, who I am going to call Greg.

Greg and I have been dating since Viva BazVegas and these are the main points to know:

·         Until last year he lived with his childhood sweetheart and had two children with her.

·         She cheated on him, he left, and has been single since then.

·         He lives with his mother (as do I) as renting anywhere near London is impossible on one salary.

·         He had a stable job he enjoys, a decent social circle and regular hobbies

Now the children thing bothered me, I didn’t want to date anyone with children as I don’t have any. Greg has made it clear that he would not introduce anyone to his children who was not going to be a permanent fixture. Well that’s just fine by me because I don’t feel ready to deal with someone else’s children at the moment.

But I liked Greg enough to keep seeing him and after a couple of weeks I took him to two events that I had coming up.

First was Dick’s birthday, a local curry house, nothing too fancy or scary for Greg as I discovered he is a bit shy around new people. One of Greg’s plus points is that he has a gay friend. To anyone who doesn’t understand why this is so important allow me to enlighten you.

Most straight men I have met find gay men very hard to relate to. It’s not that they cannot talk to them about cars and football and all the usual stuff guys talk about. Where straight men struggle to understand gay men is that they like cock and they don’t like pussy. That has always seemed to be a stumbling block for the straight men I have met and introduced to my gay family of Dick and Dom.  

I’m not saying all straight men are homophobic, not at all, but there always seems to be a bit of a division. So Greg having a gay friend was very welcome because it means he is able to accept the cock vs pussy debate and not let it affect a friendship.

The other event I took him to was Gascoigne’s son’s birthday. This was critical as Gascoigne is the oracle when it comes to dating. Now the party was in the afternoon and I suggested we stay in the seaside town and make a night of it. Hotel booked it all seemed to be shaping up nicely.

Greg then said that his friend lived in the same town and had invited us both to go to a live music venue with him and his girlfriend. Perfect, I love like music and the whole night was looking good.

That night the male half of the couple we were to go out with turned up alone. He’d had a row with his Mrs so what transpired was not the nice couples night I had thought it would be but more of a lads night out with me in tow. So I drank beer happily and made the best of it, his friend is actually a great laugh.

Now without going into too much detail due to the amount of beer consumed and the fact that I seemed to be able to handle it much better than Greg, who drives everywhere, the night did not end the way I had hoped and it was very much a let-down.

I made no secret of the fact that I was pissed off as we drove home the next day and told Greg on no uncertain terms that if what I wanted was a drunken careless fumble I would have slept with the first guy in a nightclub that offered but I am not that type of girl and in a bedroom situation I expect more from someone.

Now that may sound mean given that he was drunk but this was the first night we stayed together and I had expected to be made to feel special. I also believe that starting out on the right foot and making your position about certain things clear is vital so that everyone knows where they stand.

Greg was mortified about being so drunk and very grateful that I am not one for dragging out a bad mood all day but he did say he wanted to make it up to me.

I didn’t see him for nearly a week after that due to working and generally being busy. When I did see him I did not have any excitement at all. No butterflies in the tummy, nothing and it dawned on me that I had not felt that at all since meeting him. I wasn’t excited when a text came through, nothing.

Now to explain I had already told Greg that he was too keen, he texts too much, he was just being a bit full on and he seemed to take that on board at first but since the night that never was he had gone back to texting a lot, perhaps because he thought I might be changing my mind about him. He’d be right.

No bigger turn off is there than someone who is too available to you to quickly, I always think.

So on the night of no butterflies I found myself in an extremely tricky position, I had planned to have a nice date night with him and try and figure out the butterflies’ situation when I wasn’t in such a tizz. No such luck though because he brought the “making it up to me” issue up and offered to take me for a weekend away.

So I did what any girl who was unsure about her feelings would do. I told him I didn’t want to see him anymore.

I know that sounds horrible but I didn’t want him spending money to go away for a weekend when I might very well get there and regret being there. Whatever shag fest he has planned I have well and truly gone cold on and so I told him that I thought he was more into me that I was too him and said that we should stop seeing each other.

Sensible you may think but it didn’t last long. I missed his company and oddly started feeling that I may have made a huge error. So when he text me saying that he knew that perhaps he had tried to push me to fast and that he was happy to date and see how things went it was music to my ears and I told him that whilst I did like him I didn’t want to take things to fast.

I told him how I felt and how I wasn’t sure of my feelings and that I did not want to lead him on. I told him that whilst socialising with friends is fine and meeting family members was inevitable given that we both live at home I didn’t want to rush into meeting extended family or anything like that. The weekend away is definitely on hold.

So that brings you up to date on the dating situation. I’ve invited him round for dinner on Friday and we’ll see how it goes.

I need to work out where the butterflies have gone and whether I can get them back, or if they are just waiting for the right person and Greg is just not it.

Until next time

Love

SG

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